PLURderapolis
Creating a safer PLUR community together
Consent isn't just sexy. It's necessary. Especially in nightlife spaces where people are vulnerable, intoxicated, overstimulated, or all of the above.
At PLURderapolis, we believe in creating spaces where everyone feels safe, respected, and empowered. That's why consent culture is at the heart of everything we do.
(That spells FRIES if you need to remember it.)
Silence or lack of resistance does not equal consent. Only an enthusiastic, ongoing "yes" means yes.
Remember: PLUR means Peace, Love, Unity, and Respect for all.
Keep it clear, casual, and ongoing. Consent isn't one question. It's a whole-ass conversation.
Don't misgender people. Don't make assumptions. Don't use someone's gender or sexuality as an excuse to be invasive or weird. Transphobia, homophobia, and racism = not welcome here.
Our community celebrates diversity and expects everyone to respect each other's identities and boundaries.
If you witness or experience a consent violation, report it to event staff, use our accountability process, or leave an anonymous tip.
Run any moment through the five FRIES questions. Answer honestly. There are no wrong answers here, only clearer ones.
Five short scenes from real nights out. Tap each card to see the call.
You're dancing with someone. They said yes to dancing, but halfway through they go still and stop responding.
Freezing is a common stress response, not a yes. Stop, give them space, and check in with words: "Hey, are you okay? Want to take a break?" Only continue with a clear, enthusiastic yes.
Someone is very drunk but seems into it and keeps pulling you closer.
A person who is heavily intoxicated cannot give informed consent, no matter how into it they seem. Help them get water, find their friends, or get them home safe instead.
They said yes to coming back to your place earlier. Now they're quiet in the car.
Consent is reversible and specific to the moment. Check in honestly: "We can just hang out, or I can take you home. What do you want tonight?"
You put your arm around someone at the rail. They didn't say no.
Silence is not a yes. Ask first, every time: "Is this okay?" It takes two seconds and it changes everything.
They asked you to dance, keep checking that you're having fun, and ask before trying anything new.
This is what it looks like: enthusiastic, ongoing, and mutual. Match that energy.
How to step in without putting yourself in danger. We’ve all seen it: someone looks cornered at a bar, uncomfortable in a car, or being followed at a festival. Most people freeze because they “don’t know what to do.” Here’s the truth: you don’t need to be a hero. You just need to interrupt the pattern.
Remember: Most bad situations don’t look obvious: they look like “friends arguing,” “a couple leaving,” or “someone drunk being helped out.” The line between safe and unsafe is subtle. When in doubt, interrupt it anyway.
PLURderapolis stands for safe dance floors.
If someone tells you a person made them uncomfortable or violated consent, take it seriously.
If you feel unsafe or unsure what to do, check our Emergency Resources, or find a trusted peer, medic, or venue staff member.